School. Home or Away.

I feel broken hearted. Little Miss is not coping with school. Another child, or another school and I really think she would have been excluded.  As it is, she is effectively in isolation. She is separated from all the other children, due to her physical attacks and verbal abuse against both children and staff. This is all day long as far as I understand from the conversation I had with the head teacher earlier today.

The school just don’t know what to do with or for her anymore. I don’t see that there are any benefits to her being there at all at the moment. Nothing. She is stressed and in fight mode, unless she sees an opportunity for flight. Her only break from it is to sleep so she conks out in the afternoon .. active dissociation.  She is being aggressive to other children across the board; Little kids, big kids, soft kids tough kids. There doesn’t appear to he any rhyme or reason, but what we do know is that when she isn’t at school these responses are always as a result of feeling stressed. Transitions are a massive problem, not getting what she wants (think toddler), being surprised.

I feel so sad for her and don’t see how we can possibly sustain her in that setting under those conditions. We are in the process of getting her statement amended for her to attend local specialist provision which will be much more geared up to her needs. In the meantime our last ditch contingency plan is to home school. CD doesn’t think we are there and knowing how tough it will be on us we both have serious reservations, but I don’t see how we can leave her in isolation at school. At least at home we would be able to provide more of the sensory play and nurturing that she needs.

Sigh. My poor poor sweet troubled beloved girl.

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